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Talk Thirty To Me

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Why turning 30 is going to be awesome . October : Pumpkin spice, Halloween, big knit jumpers, blowing the dust off the slow cooker and drinking far too much wine. But also, for me it means Birthday and this time I’m leaving my 20s behind and entering my next decade. When I was 13, I was obsessed with the film “13 going on 30” I think I watched it well over twenty times relating to the main character Jenna and her mantra, ‘I want to be thirty, flirty and thriving’. Well fast forward and I find myself aged 29, staring 30 in the eyes and up until now – I have been having a bit of a hard time dealing with this realisation that I’ve completed 1/3 of my life already and I am now (gulp) a fully-fledged adult. Thank you, Reddit forums, at 3am while I was busy waging wars on myself and my ageing process you soothed me. However, upon reflection – something we’ve all had time to do during the pandemic, I’ve come to realise that saying “ Hello, my name is Chelsea and I’m 30 Years old ”...
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Things I gained from leaving Facebook

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I have been off Facebook for just over a month now until today; if I could sum it up in a nutshell it made me feel mostly ‘free’. Full freedom I feel, would have come from deleting all social media which is a little difficult all the while in lock-down away from loved ones, deleting the likes of Whatsapp and Messenger would have isolated me from those of my friends and family checking in to make sure I was cool ( thank you for keeping in touch you utter beauties, it really opens your eyes – but more on that later).   But liberation! Let me tell you, exciting, wonderful and happy things happen to me in my life even when I am not posting about it online. Sad, frustrating and stressful things are also still happening in my life even when I’m not ‘Facebook statusing’ them. More than ‘free’ I felt I have claimed back my sense of humour. So often I’d scroll though Facebook and be bogged down by the constant barrage of news articles, fake news, political views. Seeing people who a...
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What’s in a surname? Preparing for Married life and leaving my maiden name behind.

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Typically speaking, when women get married to men it usually goes without saying that yes, she will take his surname. It’s become a cultural convention in the UK and thought of as the norm; though while it’s not a legal requirement – why do people still change their name?   For those that wish to have children and start a family, it’s an easy thing to take your new husbands name and all sharing the family name.  Meanwhile, others believe that the act is an "outdated tradition" with sexist connotations that represent a woman being handed over like a product from her father to her husband who now owns her - can you imagine!   Personally, I see it as being proud to share the name of my new husband; who’s family have welcomed me into theirs, it bonds us together, shows my commitment and really would make me feel ‘married’ as opposed to if I kept my surname and added ‘Mrs’. - that’s my mother.   However, as much as I am delighted to change my name when I marry, I am absol...
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Infidelity the ten year after-burn

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I must first stress; I have a wonderful fiancé who has never, nor would-ever hurt me. However, he has suffered the hands of the affair I lived through; through no fault of his own. I am not carrying this into 2020 for sure, I am not carrying this as of today. The thing about affairs is that rarely, the victim of the betrayal hardly gets asked how it made them  feel  long after the initial anger and upset has subsided. Initially, the perpetrator wants to minimise all conversation regarding what they have done. They are in denial, ashamed and embarrassed – rightly so. Wishing to quash all dialogue and bury their head in the sand and batting off questions by projecting their anger of what they’ve done onto their betrayed spouse. Whilst at the same time, the victim of the disloyalty has an urgent hunger to discuss in great detail the timeline of deceit; when, where, how often – merely, wanting answers! I found myself recalling to my instincts. I knew something was wrong a year per...
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Introducing Colyer's Copy

Welcome to Colyer’s Copy, a personal blog from a young adult female trying to make her way in the world. There have been a few big changes in my life recently, with more to come.  I feel if I can share my experiences good and bad on here, I can hopefully help or entertain you if you’re going though the same. It took me a long time to grow out of Tumblr I admit, somethings about my teenage years I really struggled let go of! So now I find myself on Blogger. Writing article-style musings rather than angst filled ramblings and outbursts my former self  may*  have done from time to time. So, a quick rundown of me as an individual 7 facts about me: Colyer  – My soon-to-be name, I am getting married next year. I am wearing-in my new name early. I take A LOT of photographs  13,000 a year or more, my loved ones roll their eyes – that is until I present the pictures years later, they are quite appreciative of the reminiscing. I like food.  Ok, I  LOOOOOOVE...
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