Infidelity the ten year after-burn
I must first stress; I have a wonderful fiancé who has never, nor would-ever hurt me. However, he has suffered the hands of the affair I lived through; through no fault of his own. I am not carrying this into 2020 for sure, I am not carrying this as of today. The thing about affairs is that rarely, the victim of the betrayal hardly gets asked how it made them feel long after the initial anger and upset has subsided. Initially, the perpetrator wants to minimise all conversation regarding what they have done. They are in denial, ashamed and embarrassed – rightly so. Wishing to quash all dialogue and bury their head in the sand and batting off questions by projecting their anger of what they’ve done onto their betrayed spouse. Whilst at the same time, the victim of the disloyalty has an urgent hunger to discuss in great detail the timeline of deceit; when, where, how often – merely, wanting answers! I found myself recalling to my instincts. I knew something was wrong a year per...